One of the Biggest Mistakes Aspiring BIZ Experiencess — and Almost Everybody — Make From parents to celebrities, bosses, thought leaders, and colleagues — you're going to hear a lot of advice, and it's your job to filter out what's good vs. bad.
By Clinton Sparks Edited by Mark Klekas
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There is so much B.S. being pushed at us all day. Whether it's from the Internet, news, ill-informed coworkers, friends, parents, self-proclaimed thought leaders or just straight-up idiots — anyone can sound like they know what they're talking about.
Listening to the wrong person can harm your business, finances and life. As a successful BIZ Experiences who's worked with top musical artists and companies, my advice to aspiring BIZ Experiencess is this: You have to pay attention to the messenger and not the message. Sometimes someone's advice is questionable and should be taken with a grain of salt. Here's how you can tell:
Do they follow their own advice?
Everyone has an opinion or advice that they feel you should listen to.
Have you seen those people online who post thought-provoking posts about living a better life, and their whole thing is that they have it all figured out? The "I can show you how to make money doing nothing" community.
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They say they make six figures doing nothing themselves — and for some odd reason, out of the goodness of their hearts — they have decided to devote all their time showing you how to do it.
I personally know some of these people, and I find myself scratching my head, thinking, they don't even do this. Some live the total opposite of the advice they share. Be wary of those who try to convince you of who they are. They are merely trying to convince themselves and seek your endorsement.
Before you are willing to consider someone's advice, check to see if they are following their own prescription.
Who are they trying to convince, you or themselves?
Be wary of those who try to convince you of who they are, they are merely trying to convince themselves and seek your endorsement.
We live in a world where a guy gets lucky with one investment and now says they are a financial guru. He's writing books, selling courses, posting content on socials and speaking on stages. And we all believe that because he's successfully positioning himself as a financial wizard, he is one. We were led to believe he has the answers, and we have to pay for his expertise.
Consistent success and hard work have been replaced with exaggerations and false narratives.
Just because someone has achieved success in one thing doesn't mean they are smart or experienced enough to give you all-around business or life advice in everything. Most associate someone's success with brilliance, assume they are smart at all business, and consider their advice sound. This can be a big mistake.
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I've made this mistake and lost hundreds of thousands of dollars due to a bogus message that someone tried to sell me on. Because this person had success doing something in technology, they would be a good business partner and understand how to guide and help me to build something successful.
Wrong! And I paid the price for being caught up in the message and needing to spend more time on the messenger.
From parents to celebrities, bosses, thought leaders, and colleagues, you are going to hear a lot of advice. And don't let someone's title or past successes be the sole determinant of whether they have the right advice for you.
Remember that opinions aren't advice.
Opinions are not advice.
You need to seek out information from those that have done what you are trying to do, or have a great amount of experience in what you are or will be going through. Beware of those that do not fit either of these criteria. They likely won't have the right information and are pawning off their "opinion" as credible advice.
If they have limited experience with something they are advising on, consider it a suggestion. Here are some questions to ask yourself to help vet others:
- How long have they been around doing this successfully?
- Do you know others who can vouch for them?
- Are there real examples of their methods working?
- Have they actually done what they say they have?
Get the right advice from the right people.
The average person hears someone is a doctor and automatically assumes they have the answers to any medical questions. A pediatric ophthalmologist has different information than a board-certified plastic surgeon. Yes, they are both doctors and know about general health, but you wouldn't want one or the other advising on the other's expertise.
There is a difference between getting an answer and getting the right one.
So, if you want an opinion, listen to everyone because unique points of view are amazing when doing market research or wanting a diverse set of perspectives. However, an opinion is much different than factual advice from someone with deep experience in what it is you seek advice in.
Remember, anyone can sound like they know what they're talking about and can easily regurgitate something they heard or read from someone else. But, if you want credible facts and experience to help you succeed… you must pay attention to the messenger, not the message.
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