Why Hoping You Fail Is How I Wish You the Best Failing is the soul crushing stage you must pass through to ever appreciate success.
By Mark Peter Davis Edited by Dan Bova
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Failing is a pain. Emotionally, it seems like there's nothing good about it. I know -- I've failed a ton.
When you fail, you suffer from a stew of embarrassment, stress and frustration. And those emotions can run deep. Real deep. They can color every social experience and adversely affect your confidence.
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The good news is that beneath the hormonal response there are real benefits that make you a better founder. I prefer to partner with and invest in founders that have failed – and failed hard. The harder the better. I like founders who have recovered and are back in the game.
There are three reasons I like recovering founders:
1. Lesson Learned.
First, they should have learned something. There are dozens of trip wires that can make a founder stumble. A recovering founder knows where at least a few of the booby traps lie and can dodge them. That reduces the odds of failure.
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2. Stronger decision making skills.
Second, founder euphoria has long since passed. When founders first make the leap from a real job to a startup there is a feeling of invincibility, endless opportunity, weightlessness. This founder euphoria exacerbates optimism and clouds judgment and makes for inefficient decision-making. And, bad decision making kills companies.
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3. Healthy skepticism.
Third, recovering founders are not only beyond euphoria, they're skeptical. They don't trust their gut blindly the way they used to. Fear breeds a dependency on experimentation -- a critical part of healthy decision-making. Furthermore, skeptics don't tend to be stubborn. It's hard to dig your heels in when there's no such thing as a sure thing.
While failing can be soul crushing, just remember that it's the best training you can get.
