10 Steps to Ending a Toxic Relationship Whether they are romantic, professional, family, friends, staying in toxic relationships isn't worth it.

By Lewis Howes Edited by Dan Bova

This story originally appeared on Lewis Howes

If you've never experienced or been a part of a toxic relationship, congratulations!

You will still benefit from listening to this episode on The School of Greatness, however.

For the rest of us, this conversation with Transformation Coach Chris Lee (back for the 5th time by popular demand!) is powerful.

I've been a part of toxic relationships more than once, and they aren't pretty.

And yet I stayed in them long after I should have.

Can you relate?

If so, the 10 steps Chris lays out in our conversation will be massively helpful to you.

Take it from me: toxic relationships are not worth it, whether they are romantic, professional, family, friends, whatever.

But it can be really really hard to end them if you don't know how.

That's why Chris and I wanted to discuss this process on the podcast. He breaks down each step, walks you through the how and why, and drops a lot of wisdom along the way.

This process is powerful and can free you from relationships in your life that need to shift or go away.

Listen close to Episode 164 with Chris Lee.

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Step 1: Identify if you're in a toxic relationship

Step 2: Keep a record

Step 3: Identify the rewards of being in a toxic relationship

Step 4: Give up the excuses

Step 5: Get clear on your vision for your relationship (My vision for my relationship with _____________ is . . .)

Step 6: The Conversation – Be firm and clear that the relationship is over

Step 7: Grieve and mourn the loss of the relationship

Step 8: Fill the emptiness with positive people and activities

Step 9: Write down the lessons learned

Step 10: Self-love

Lewis Howes

New York Times Bestselling Author, BIZ Experiences, Coach

Lewis Howes is a New York Times bestselling author of The School of Greatness and The Mask of Masculinity. He is a lifestyle BIZ Experiences, high performance business coach and keynote speaker. A former professional football player and two-sport All-American, he is a current USA Men’s National Handball Team athlete. He hosts a top 100 iTunes ranked Apple podcast, The School of Greatness. Howes was recognized by the White House and President Obama as one of the top 100 BIZ Experiencess in the country under 30. Details magazine called him one of “5 Internet Guru’s that can Make You Rich.”  Howes has been featured on Ellen, Good Morning America, The Today Show, The New York Times, People, ESPN, Sports Illustrated, Men’s Health and other major media outlets.

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